How to Find a Work-Life Balance: Rules by a Psychologist 

Research shows that with the advancement of technology, the boundaries between work and personal life are rapidly blurring. At times, this can be convenient — quickly replying to a client, approving a presentation, or discussing a new contract without stepping away from household tasks. However, constant engagement in work becomes draining, leading to stress and health problems. How can we avoid this and find balance between work and personal life?

What Is Work-Life Balance?

It’s the optimal ratio of time dedicated to personal life and work. This ratio is unique for everyone: some may find it acceptable to work 10 hours a day, while for others, even 7 hours feels overwhelming.  

The key is to rely on your own feelings and priorities. What matters is that you feel comfortable, aren’t living solely for work, and have enough time for yourself, your family, and your interests, regardless of what they are exactly, for example, playing at the blackjack casino or embroidery.  

The Consequences of Imbalance  

Work demands significant involvement and concentration. When we remain in such a state for too long, problems inevitably arise:  

  • Emotional Strain: Irritability over minor things, chronic stress, or apathy. These symptoms may eventually lead to depression.  
  • Poor Health: Overwork results in chronic fatigue, disrupted sleep and eating habits, and lack of energy for physical activities.  
  • Strained Relationships: Spending more time on work leaves less for family and friends, potentially leading to family conflicts and emotional distance from a partner.  
  • Burnout and Career Stagnation: Diminished motivation, energy, and desire to develop professionally or generate fresh ideas.  

How to Identify If You Have a Problem  

Analyze Your Work Hours  

Ask yourself the following questions and answer as honestly as possible:  

  • How many hours a day do you actually work?  
  • Do you often bring work home or finish tasks after hours?  
  • How frequently do you respond to work messages during non-working hours?  
  • How do you rest, and is it sufficient for recovery?  

The answers will likely give you some insight. If you’re unsure, try creating a “wheel of balance.” This tool helps visualize which areas of your life are satisfying and which ones need improvement.  

Check for Signs of Burnout  

Burnout can manifest through the following symptoms:  

  • Persistent fatigue, not only in the evening but also in the morning.
  • Daytime sleepiness paired with nighttime insomnia.
  • Emotional and physical exhaustion.
  • Indifference or boredom.
  • Increased irritability.
  • Negative emotions without clear cause.
  • Finding it increasingly difficult to work.
  • Loss of interest in work and results.  

Complete regular self-checks, even if you think everything is fine. It’s easier to monitor your well-being than to deal with the consequences later. If self-diagnosis doesn’t help, seek assistance from a psychologist.  

How to Address the Problem  

Like any other issue, early recognition and proactive measures are essential.  

Acknowledge the Problem

Being honest with yourself and willing to change is half the battle. Without this step, no strategies or techniques will be effective.  

Organize Your Work Time Properly

Clearly define your working hours and communicate them to colleagues, friends, and family. During work hours, focus solely on work. However, once work time ends, switch to your personal life. Postpone work-related questions, messages, and calls until the next day. You can silence work chats at a certain time or set your work hours in your profile description.  

Set Priorities

Identify which areas of your life currently need the most attention and focus on them after work. Spend time with family, pursue hobbies, or learn something new.  

How to Stay on Track  

This is arguably the most challenging part. Will your motivation last? Will you eventually revert to old habits once you feel some relief? To prevent this, ensure positive changes become habitual. Constantly remind yourself that work tasks can wait, and the world won’t fall apart if you take time for yourself. What’s more, ignoring rest may lead to such severe burnout that you’re unable to work at all.  

Learn to Say “No”  

Control your workload. Decline overtime work, even if asked persistently. Otherwise, you won’t have the energy or focus to complete your tasks effectively. If you struggle to assert boundaries, decline additional projects, or say no to extra tasks, consider consulting a psychologist. Often, such difficulties stem from past experiences, fears, or ingrained beliefs that prevent you from adopting this skill.  

Create a Daily Routine  

Add not only work tasks but also personal activities to your calendar. Plan time for hobbies, family, and friends. Arrange meetings in advance to minimize the likelihood of canceling them to work instead.  

The priority matrix can help you allocate time for rest while also being effective for work tasks.  

Avoid Distractions  

During breaks, put your phone aside or set it to “Do Not Disturb” mode. This reduces the temptation to answer work calls, respond to messages, check emails, or browse work chats.  

Set Up a Separate Workspace  

This is essential if you work from home. Remote work blurs the lines between work and personal time. While it’s convenient to skip commutes and morning routines, it’s harder to switch between work and personal tasks.  

Some even minimize movement altogether, working from bed with a laptop. However, this can negatively affect your sleep over time. If your brain doesn’t differentiate between work and rest environments, it may keep you thinking about tasks and deadlines as you fall asleep, or even process work-related information in your dreams. 

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